This is a complicated question. It's up to you to decide. I find it challenging to step into this circumstance. In any case, you must try your hardest to persuade your husband not to do this and to respect you and your conscience as well. If nothing else, you may at least demand respect for your decision to follow your conscience. Unfortunately, I am unable to offer you a concrete response. You have a family, therefore this is a difficult predicament.
Dear visitors of Gloria Dei and all who have already written or who will write a personal message to me. I am grateful for your attention, your kindness, for your spiritual support and especially for your sacrifices and prayers for me. God may reward you!